It sounds like your instinct is telling you to pause, and like you say, the summer hols is a great time to do that. From my perspective, I enjoy connecting with you on here as it’s the only place I’ve found other ADHDers, and Substack provides a space where we can safely communicate. I look for similarities and connections in other people’s words—I spent 40 years (minus being a baby etc!) feeling like I was completely different and broken, and that’s all changed since I found Substack, and had my diagnosis. You’ve definitely helped me feel seen and understood, and for me that’s been invaluable ❤️
Thanks so much Amy, I’m really pleased to hear that and thanks for sharing. I totally agree that reading other people’s experiences can be so powerful. I’ve joined a lot of dots from what I’ve read on here and the people I’ve met. I feel very grateful for that.
This is exactly where my head has been at for the last 7 months. I hadn't found a way to put words to the feeling, but 'untangling' is exactly how it feels. I had been guilt-tripping myself for hiding in my journals, but now I realise I have been untangling. I am learning on my neurodivergent journey that the moments with the most light for me are when I can find the language to express myself clearly, not only understanding myself better, but also then being able to communicate that with others. Thank you for giving me 'Untangled'!
I have started trying to integrate 'scaffolding' activities into my writing to help motivate and inspire me. I watched Brene Brown's 'The Power of Vulnerability' Ted Talk yesterday (which I will probably write a piece about), and this thought stuck with me in particular: 'I know that vulnerability is the core of shame and fear, but it appears that it is also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.'
I find myself constantly paralysed in the fear and shame, and seeking courage. Please keep sharing your story. It is helping me to feel less alone and to seek out courage to be vulnerable.
Hi Rosie, thanks so much for sharing this and do you know what is so funny - Brene Brown’s work on vulnerability actually led me to start my Substack. I’d been thinking a lot about vulnerability and belonging and all the themes she writes about and on the day I was pondering whether to go for it on here an audio book of hers that I’d not listened to for ages randomly started playing on my phone and it was all the words I really needed to hear ✨ A little nod from the universe right there. The further I get along the road I get with all this the kinder I become towards myself but it’s such a journey and we all go at our own pace. The untangling is such a necessary part of the process and I believe edges us closer to what I see as the next and arguably most important stage this - self-compassion 💜
It sounds like your instinct is telling you to pause, and like you say, the summer hols is a great time to do that. From my perspective, I enjoy connecting with you on here as it’s the only place I’ve found other ADHDers, and Substack provides a space where we can safely communicate. I look for similarities and connections in other people’s words—I spent 40 years (minus being a baby etc!) feeling like I was completely different and broken, and that’s all changed since I found Substack, and had my diagnosis. You’ve definitely helped me feel seen and understood, and for me that’s been invaluable ❤️
Thanks so much Amy, I’m really pleased to hear that and thanks for sharing. I totally agree that reading other people’s experiences can be so powerful. I’ve joined a lot of dots from what I’ve read on here and the people I’ve met. I feel very grateful for that.
This is exactly where my head has been at for the last 7 months. I hadn't found a way to put words to the feeling, but 'untangling' is exactly how it feels. I had been guilt-tripping myself for hiding in my journals, but now I realise I have been untangling. I am learning on my neurodivergent journey that the moments with the most light for me are when I can find the language to express myself clearly, not only understanding myself better, but also then being able to communicate that with others. Thank you for giving me 'Untangled'!
I have started trying to integrate 'scaffolding' activities into my writing to help motivate and inspire me. I watched Brene Brown's 'The Power of Vulnerability' Ted Talk yesterday (which I will probably write a piece about), and this thought stuck with me in particular: 'I know that vulnerability is the core of shame and fear, but it appears that it is also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.'
I find myself constantly paralysed in the fear and shame, and seeking courage. Please keep sharing your story. It is helping me to feel less alone and to seek out courage to be vulnerable.
Hi Rosie, thanks so much for sharing this and do you know what is so funny - Brene Brown’s work on vulnerability actually led me to start my Substack. I’d been thinking a lot about vulnerability and belonging and all the themes she writes about and on the day I was pondering whether to go for it on here an audio book of hers that I’d not listened to for ages randomly started playing on my phone and it was all the words I really needed to hear ✨ A little nod from the universe right there. The further I get along the road I get with all this the kinder I become towards myself but it’s such a journey and we all go at our own pace. The untangling is such a necessary part of the process and I believe edges us closer to what I see as the next and arguably most important stage this - self-compassion 💜